Intentions and Choices

If it doesn't arise from personal desire, it's somewhat difficult to occur...

Or if it does happen, the outcome will be different...

Have you ever noticed that often, no matter how many times we try something, if we lack the intention, it becomes difficult to accomplish?

Uhmmm well.. That's absolutely true. Especially when it's related to emotions.

Could be any emotion... 

Can we be demanded to like something?

To forget someone a.k.a moving on?

To let go of your dreams?

Well... what else, huh...

If we're being forced, It's merely hard.... 

《Force : make (someone) do something against their will》

'"Just do whatever you want to do" (from a clip of a movie... sorry, I forgot the title, hehe).

Another example, for instance, is when we advise someone in various ways, even sometimes resorting to forcing them. 

It's because we feel like we know what's best for that person. 

Like parents advising their children; or older siblings advising younger ones; forcing you partner to be like ideal partner; and so on. 

Consequently, if someone feels coerced, they won't fully comply. It's not uncommon for people to become defiant when they feel their desires aren't being met and are instead forced to do things they dislike.

I learned to not force anything: conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for, whatever flows flows, what crashes crashes.

Well, that's probably it. Because there are times when we also feel that way, understanding how others should be, but at the same time not wanting to be dictated to...

However, indeed, sometimes circumstances force us to let go.

By the way... often, real-life examples are the most effective advice... rather than mere words.