Juli 2023 - heartkokok

Selasa, Juli 18, 2023

People Come and Go, that's life!
Juli 18, 20231 Comments


People drift in and out of our lives

We now say goodbyeーtomorrow perhaps will say another hello. 

As long as we're alive, we may experience new encounters, breakups, and endings. We're connected by relationship—whether acquaintanceship, friendship or love. 

Most of the relationships we have with people will end, whether through growing apart, an argument, or death that will tear us apart. Well, that's life, eh?


People come into our life; they walk in and out for one reason or another. And that's life! 



Some encounters may come in unexpected ways. 

Either it's a blessing or a lesson. 
Maybe everyone serves a different purpose in our lives. 



We didn't realize until then, that those people are meaningful, having an impact that could have such a big effect on our life.
And we can call it a blessing. 


Some are just coming to give us lessons. 
The heartbreak we feel is there to make us stronger. 


They come because we need to learn something; to cope, to love sincerely, to be patient, to grow, etc. 

They teach us something new about ourselves. 


Well, some may just pass by even without us noticing them. 



Our lives are made up of so many people. 

Sometimes we don't realize that we actually keep a little bit of each person we meet. 

However, people tend to underestimate their impact they have on others. 


For examples, I'm still listening to the song I once thought I hated, which was recommended by my friend; I'm still using the same skincare that was given by my acquaintance; a stranger suggested I buy a wireless Bluetooth that I used until now.   


When  people become parts of our lives, some parts remain long after they leave. Maybe it's a fleeting memory, favorite songs, recommendations, or habits that we just can't seem to get rid of. 


Even if the people don't stay, the memories do. 




Our sincere hearts don't want to let them go. 

It's often said that some people will stay, but they will eventually go. 


It hurts. 


You and I have perhaps experienced a lot of pain and loss when people leave our lives. 

In some cases, it will be a very traumatic experience for people, as the idea that we had a deep bond with someone we care about. 


And when that person decides to walk out of our life, we feel abandoned. 


And we could understand that these kinds of grief aren't the same. 


We don't meet people by accident. 


I believe that people don't meet by accident.


They come to us for the time being, and when their time's up, they need to go to another chapter of others people's life. 


At least, we all know that many relationships can change or end dramatically. 


So, we should wonder if it's worth using up our energy trying to understand other people's reason for going?


Instead, we can think that although people will not stay forever, they come across to help us grow. 


Their presence creates a lasting remark on us forever. 


There are so many memories that lie within ourselves from the people in the past. 

And it's somehow comforting to know there are so many lives you're still a part of that you have no idea about. 


There are some fragments which are entangled with all the people we've met. 

I hope that I can leave a lasting piece of myself in the people that I've loved and have loved me. 





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Jumat, Juli 14, 2023

Things I learned from My Friend's Wedding
Juli 14, 20230 Comments

This month a best friend of mine was holding her wedding ceremony. 

We're witnessing her sacred ritual, eventually. 

We seemed to know her love story as both the brides are the from the same major.


I got 50k for answering a quiz 😁


That's the first time after a long time we didn't see each other since our graduation farewell. 

This time, we're still the same, the same people years ago when we first begun our friendship. 

We're just the same people whose distance away us but our connection remains. 





We bring nostalgic moment from the past and somehow looking each others, that it's so much different. 

I'm not lying. We're still the same people, we're still the same person. 
It's just our ways are different. It's just our environment shape us into a better person. It's just we are together but bring our own stories. 

And what? 
Beside Agi (the bride), the idea of looking for partner has arising between us, among my best friends. However, we keep reminding each other, that
"If there is someone that ask you to lower your standards, don't! 
Marry the one who brings peace to your heart. 
It is the person who understands the calamity behind your silence. 
It is the one who is loyal, caring and envelope you with trust. 



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Selasa, Juli 04, 2023

A Warm July: Healing Through Words
Juli 04, 20230 Comments

Seems that we've reached the half of this year, eh?

I'm going to welcome this July with a new spirit. A new journey to embrace. 


It has been one of the greatest and most difficult months of my life. 

Yet, these past few months I learned a lot. 


I learned that in this world, everything is just temporary. 


Moments. Feelings. People. Flowers. Kindness. 





And you know, I want to know that love is an action. I learned that love is about giving—everything—and letting it hurt. 

Wait... what?

Hahaha, yea that is what I knew from my past experiences. 


I learned all the things come in twos :

Life and death.

Pain and joy. 

Sugar and salt. 

Me and you. 


It is the balance of universe.

“God turns you from one feeling to another and teaches by means of opposites so that you will have two wings to fly, not one”

― Rumi


We must learn to focus on warm energy, always. 

Soak our limbs in it and become better lovers to the world, for if we can't learn to be kinder to each other how will we ever learn to be kinder to the most desperate parts of ourselves. 



*This post was inspired from Rupi Kaur. 





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