April 2023 - heartkokok

Sabtu, April 29, 2023

Unrequited Love
April 29, 20230 Comments


Being honest about our feelings to a person, especially if you're a girl hasn't always been easy....



The possible reason can be, the feelings we feel is often subtle, just in the form of facial expression, act of kindness, or the opposite, being harsh to the person. 

If we're being lucky, we can have the same frequency with that person. What might be happened is often the worst case. 
That person didn't know our true feelings, or they knew but didn't have the same feelings. 

But for me, there's nothing to do about being a guy or a girl when we talk about this. 

If we're having a feelings to someone, we can express it. 

I was hesitance too when expressing my feelings.  

However, I soon realized that my fear of rejection was holding me back from potentially meaningful relationships. 

Somehow I think that we shouldn't leave things unsaid... Well, somebody said that "... you can't leave things till tomorrow because there might just not be a tomorrow."




I always experience rejection many times, the person didn't have the same feelings as mine, and it was stung.
I was disappointed and questioning myself. 

Looking back on these experiences, I realized that unrequited love is a normal part of the dating process. 

Not every crush or connection will lead to a relationship, and that's okay. 

It's important to remember that rejection doesn't define our worth as individuals, and that there are other people out there who will appreciate and reciprocate our feelings.


"Unrequited love is the ultimate test of the heart; it takes strength, resilience, and courage to love someone who doesn't love you back."





Of course we may feeling sad if our feelings towards someone is not reciprocated. 
Everyone deserves to be loved, right?

However we can't force other feelings towards us. 

Since I've been experienced that kind of feelings many time, could I say, "Am I get used to it"?

Sometimes we don't understand why you do certain things even when you know you're never going get back. 

Hahaha, but I believe that "If you truly love someone, you can wish for her/his to be loved and cared for."

Totally agree on that, even if it's painful, but it's painfully beautiful.


    Also Read A Sense of Pure Affection


In conclusion, being honest about our feelings can be empowering. 

It's important to remember that honesty is an essential part of any relationship, and that it's okay if our feelings are not reciprocated. 

By being open and honest, we can grow and learn about ourselves, and ultimately build stronger and healthier relationships in the future. 

We can also gain confidence and self-respect by taking ownership of our feelings and expressing them in a respectful and mature manner.



A magic poem I found on ig. 

Love exist in so much more than a romantic partner
Love is everything around you and I hope you learn how to open your eyes to that
I hope you find love in every aspect of your life
I hope you find it lucked into early morning sunrises and the smell of your favorite places
I hope you find it strung between the laughter you share with friends
I hope it bounces off of you when you hug the people you care for
I hope it swells within your rib cage
Whenever you hear your favourite song or discover something that moves you
I hope you fall in love with growth and change and the messiness and the beauty of making mistakes
and becoming exactly who you want to be
I hope you find love in places that were once devoid of it in places within yourself that you could have been softer to, kinder in the past
because if there is one thing I have learned it is that love is so much more than a human being who holds your heart

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Jumat, April 07, 2023

Where Flowers Blooms so does Hope
April 07, 2023 2 Comments


桜梅桃李 
Ou.bai.to.ri




We may often wondering that some may have already achieved certain goals or reached significant milestones, while others may still be in the process of discovering their path or working towards their aspirations. 

... and it seems this is what I often think about.

This ancient Japanese idiom, 桜梅桃李Oubaitori, comes from the kanji for the four trees that bloom in spring: cherry blossom, plum, peach, and apricot. 

Through this idiom which symbolizes idea that each individual has their own unique pace and timing for personal growth and achievement, we can learn that individuals also have their own distinct timelines for personal development and success.

Just like four trees which blossom at different times in the spring. 


This concept also encourages patience, self-acceptance, and honoring the individual journey. 

This also help us to understand that it's important to allow ourselves to bloom and flourish in our own time


So that we don't need comparing ourselves to others or feeling pressured by external expectations. 

As Allah has placed goodness in every of your delays. "Everything beautiful takes time to bloom."

Cherry Blossom. 2023. Photo by M.



The arrival of cherry blossoms also symbolizes the fleeting nature of life, urging us to appreciate the present moment and find comfort in the transient beauty that surrounds us. 

I also found a Quote by Murasaki Shikibu, 

      "Yes, the cherry trees put this truth very plainly: none of the glory of blossoms and autumn leaves lasts long in this fleeting world."


Plants endure harsh weather conditions and challenging circumstances. 

Just like the way humans face trials and tribulations. 

Yet, when we witness the first signs of floral life, it ignites a spark within usーa glimmer of optimism and resilience. 


These flowers blossom just like a new hope. 

A hope to those who have suffered to be strong and faithful, 

because it's just like stages of life, we sometimes need to go through the hard moments, to help us grow. 

To become better than our version before.


Be optimistic!
You are doing great and you are blooming at your own pace!! 🌸




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