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Minggu, Agustus 13, 2023

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Intentions and Choices

Intentions and Choices
Agustus 13, 20230 Comments

If it doesn't arise from personal desire, it's somewhat difficult to occur...

Or if it does happen, the outcome will be different...


Have you ever noticed that often, no matter how many times we try something, if we lack the intention, it becomes difficult to accomplish?

Uhmmm well.. That's absolutely true. Especially when it's related to emotions.


Could be any emotion... 

Can we be demanded to like something?

To forget someone a.k.a moving on?

To let go of your dreams?

Well... what else, huh...


If we're being forced, It's merely hard.... 


《Force : make (someone) do something against their will》



'"Just do whatever you want to do" (from a clip of a movie... sorry, I forgot the title, hehe).


Another example, for instance, is when we advise someone in various ways, even sometimes resorting to forcing them. 

It's because we feel like we know what's best for that person. 

Like parents advising their children; or older siblings advising younger ones; forcing you partner to be like ideal partner; and so on. 

Consequently, if someone feels coerced, they won't fully comply. It's not uncommon for people to become defiant when they feel their desires aren't being met and are instead forced to do things they dislike.


I learned to not force anything: conversations, friendships, relationships, attention, love. Anything forced is just not worth fighting for, whatever flows flows, what crashes crashes.

Well, that's probably it. Because there are times when we also feel that way, understanding how others should be, but at the same time not wanting to be dictated to...


However, indeed, sometimes circumstances force us to let go.


By the way... often, real-life examples are the most effective advice... rather than mere words.
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Selasa, Februari 21, 2023

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A Mundane Life

A Mundane Life
Februari 21, 20230 Comments

Wake up. Work. Go home. [Repeat]

I like a challenging life but it seems like it doesn't happen everyday.
And it's ok. 

It's normal. You just have a boring day. Back to your daily routine.

You give the same greeting for the same people. 
Eat leftover foods. 
Travel into your daily roads. 
No progress at work. 
Repeat the same playlists. 
Wearing the ordinary clothes. 




Perhaps, you see that others' people life are more colorful. 

However, No, no.. That don't always happen that way. 


Learn to be more grateful. Learn  to be more ok. 


This world is on rush. Full of people seeking for meaning. 

The day without a meaning is also a good day. 


Let's keep calm and enjoy the mundane life. 

Because who knows, 『nothing happening means a gift from God to be in peace』.

 
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Kamis, Desember 22, 2022

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2023 Resolution: Understanding Einstein's Law of Focus

2023 Resolution: Understanding Einstein's Law of Focus
Desember 22, 20220 Comments

In 2022, I learned a lot. 

Aku belajar mengenali diri sendiri. 
I learned to love myself, content of what I am, found something new interesting things, know that I'm valuable, worth to be loved and spread more love. 

Namun, ada suatu hal yang masih perlu aku kenali lagi mengenai, 
Apakah aku mencari hal atau suasana yang baru hanya karena ingin menghindari dari apa yang sebenarnya sedang aku hadapi?

Aku menemukan aktivitas baru, mempunyai teman baru, dan aku pun semakin nyaman berkontemplasi dengan diri sendiri. Kerap kali aku memiliki 'alasan' untuk tidak segera melakukan kewajiban atau meskipun pada akhirnya aku melakukannya, rasanya seperti harus ada dorongan kuat dengan terlebih dahulu dengan melakukan aktivitas lain (di luar kewajibanku). 

Dan dari situ aku tersadar, bahwa aku perlu lebih belajar untuk fokus. 
I should learn to be more productive, accomplished, and fulfilled, of course starting from today.



https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/einsteins-law-of-focus-how-to-be-more-productive-accomplished-fulfilled-starting-today.html
Einstein's Law of Focus, he is a real genius!

Dari artikel ini aku mulai tersadarkan bahwa sudah saatnya aku harus mulai menentukan hal-hal apa saja yang tidak bisa aku lakukan maka aku tidak perlu melakukannya untuk memulai membuat sebuah perubahan. 
According to Einstein
    「What you decide not to do can make all the difference」


Ada salah seorang temanku yang sudah mengatakan hal ini sebelumnya, tapi aku masih melawan dengan meyakinkan diri sendiri bahwa tidak apa-apa melakukan banyak hal yang membuatku senang, seperti berbagai macam hobi dan lainnya. Tapi seolah aku tertampar dengan kenyataan bahwa, waktu yang kita miliki kenyataannya terbatas dan setiap orang memiliki waktu yang sama, 1 x 24 jam. Perbedaannya adalah bagaimana cara kita untuk mengatur waktu tersebut dan menentukan prioritas.

Lebih lanjut, dari artikel tersebut aku juga belajar bahwa
「We are most productive when we focus on a very small number of projects 
on which we can devote a large amount of attention」


Jika menuruti ego, kita tidak akan pernah puas. Keingan kita sangatlah tak terbatas. Kita memiliki banyak impian, ini dan itu. Ingin menguasai ini dan itu. 
Nah, oleh karenanya, ada langkah-langkah untuk membantu kita menentukan fokus bidang kita dan bisa kita praktekkan. [Newport]

  • 1. Create three columns: professional, personal (family, friends, etc.), and extracurricular (side projects, personal goals, etc.) 
  • 2. Choose one or two items from each list that are the most important (and hopefully also provide the greatest return), and put a star beside them.
  • 3. Identify items that you could stop doing, today, without suffering any real consequences, and cross them out. Think of this step as pruning.
  • 4. Look at the unmarked items and create a one- to three-week plan to complete them (or escape from them). Maybe that will mean not working on the starred projects for a short period of time, but that's OK. Think of this step as weeding.
  • 5. Focus on the one or two important things that remain in each category -- and be ruthless about not adding any new items to the list, at least for a while. Just work the list.

Yuk, yuk, Feni. Kita perlu segera mencobanya.

Mari tentukan beberapa daftar resolusi atau tujuan yang sudah dijelaskan di langkah pertama. Lalu masing-masing ditulis dua resolusi. Nah, selanjutnya coret daftar resolusi yang kelihatannya benar-benar mustahil atau hanya impian sesaat belaka. Jika masih ada yang belum bisa dicoret dari daftar, mari tentukan berapa lama sampai benar-benar bisa mencoretnya. Selanjutnya, kerjakan daftar resolusi dengan memastikan langkah lanjutan yang harus dilakukan. 

「And then put your head down and focus on the tasks, projects, or goals that really matter.」
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Jumat, November 18, 2022

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Let's Recap our Day!

Let's Recap our Day!
November 18, 20220 Comments



Evaluation and reflection need to be done each day. These allow us to refresh and have quality time with our own self. 


Have you ever tried to have a conversation with yourself?


The method can be different for each person. 
Even though you have a busy schedule, we still need to have a good conversation just with ourselves. The easiest way is to reflect on our day around 5 minutes before sleep. 
Just spare 5 minutes of yours, then think about your activities for the day.
It is also good if we can make the recapitulation once a month at minimum. 


In order to get to know yourself better, shouldn't we have a deep talk with ourselves?


There is another way to make a reflection which can be done through writing. If you're not that kind of person who writes your days in a diary, then how about you just give it a try to recap your current activities by writing them in any media? Of course, you should make sure that you follow social media rules and keep things private. With this method, I believe that we can focus on yourself to evaluate what we have done as a regular basis. 

Sometimes it's a good idea to just know ourselves better, don't we?
 

"Make a reflection before we consume (too much) information. "

There's some ideas to be written in your journal. Embrace yourself and let's take a look at your current activities with these Journaling Mind Dumps!


I found it on Insta. These questions help us to recap our days. 


1. What have I been doing lately?

2. Big/ important things that have happened?

3. How am I feeling about life at the moment?

4. Highs and lows of the past 3 months?

5. Things I've learned lately?

6. Things I want to improve?

7. Anything and everything that comes to mind. 


With just these 7 Questions, let us try to go back and then start to make ourselves better!


Let's get started to try them because, 

"You will never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine."
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Rabu, November 16, 2022

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How if We Just Make it Slow?

How if We Just Make it Slow?
November 16, 20220 Comments

"Did you find yourself happy?"

Have you been asked by someone that question?


or instead asking that question, they prone to ask these disturbing questions, 

''Why haven't you married to someone?"

"How couldn't you buy your own car?"

"You're graduated from a top university, why still live like this?"

"How if you should.... bla..bla..!!!


Right now, with rapid information and fancy technologies, we are always rushing to get everything. We want everything to be quick. We define success with only superficial categories. We crave connections. We are so often presented with quick hits. Short sharp videos, drama, and theatrics. 



It's the time to connect with nature. Photo by M. 


... we often forget small kinds of happiness. 


The magic of life isn't always found in big moments, big events, and big achievements. Its pure shape is in the mundane, in the little moments. 


There's no need to rush. What God has for you always arrives on time.   

 

Slowing down, more depth in what we create and what we do. It's not just what we want, it is what we need. What matters most is not working endlessly but going in the right direction. Slowing down is a way to speed up.



•• Take a deep breath. Relax. Feel the nature. Open your window and see the morning scenery •••

•• Allow yourself to tune into the source and yourself. It's time to reflect, be honest and re-prioritize •••


•• It is time to connect with friends and family, with nature, with ourselves •••


However, what we want is slow, it is time to just be...  o(〃＾▽＾〃)o





 
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